I can help you to find causes to any loss in confidence. This may come from, for example, negative thinking, hidden negative feelings or something you do not accept about yourself. Together we can piece together what is causing the loss in confidence so self-esteem can start to rise and an inner belief in yourself and your abilities return.
If you have low self-esteem or confidence, you may hide yourself away from social situations, stop trying new things and avoid things you find challenging. In the short term, avoiding challenging and difficult situations may make you feel safer. In the longer term, this can lead to more problems as it may reinforces underlying doubts and fears. You may end up believing that avoiding things is a good thing to do and miss out on much enjoyment.
Living with low self-esteem might harm our mental health, problems such as depression and anxiety might arise. You may also develop unhelpful habits, such as smoking and drinking too much, as a way of coping. Low self-esteem often begins in childhood. Teachers, friends, siblings, parents, and even the media send us messages about ourselves, both positive and negative. For some reason, the message that you are not good enough is the one that can stay with us.
Perhaps you found it difficult to live up to other people's expectations, or to your own expectations. Stress and difficult life events, such as serious illness or a bereavement, can have a negative effect on self-esteem. Personality can also play a part. Some people are just more prone to negative thinking, while others set impossibly high standards for themselves. To boost your self-esteem, one thing you can do is identify the negative beliefs you have about yourself, then challenge them. I can help you locate these beliefs which may be hidden. Similarly there may be an event, now dismissed, that is significant to the cause of low self esteem and again I can assist in finding such an occasion just from our conversations